Vs. 6-7 So Isaac dwelt in Gerar. As the men of the place asked about his wife, and he said, “She is my sister”; for he was afraid to say, “She is my wife,” because he thought, “lest the men of the place kill me for Rebekah, because she is beautiful to behold.”
Here we see that Isaac is lying just as his father did over the very same situation. But Isaac is more deceitful than his father. Rebekah was a relative but not a sister. Both Abraham and Isaac were afraid for their lives. They gave up honesty and integrity to save their own lives. They were willing to put their wives at great risk of these strange men having a physical relationship with them. They cared more for themselves than their wives. One man’s sin carried on to another generation.
Do we recognize ourselves in this story? Have we picked up habits from our parents, who perhaps learned the behavior from their parents? The chain has to be broken. We can be the break in the chain. For it gets even worse with the next generation. What sin we do in moderation our children will do in excess. Is it like a mirror looking into the heart of your child? Do they gossip like you; live in worry and fear; lie to protect themselves; lash out in anger; build walls; have a spirit of bitterness or unforgiveness; have no desire for the things of God perhaps because you failed to raise them up being faithful to worship in a godly church; have terrible eating habits or other habits that are destroying their minds or bodies; laziness?
What can we do to stop the chain? Search our hearts, let Him reveal to us the true condition of our hearts and fall before Him in full repentance. Then go to each of our children to seek their forgiveness for the wrong that we have done. Ask them if there is anything else that you have done to them that you have not yet made right. Ask them to tell you if they see other areas in your life that is not pleasing to God. Don’t defend yourself in any way no matter what they tell you. They may see things that we have been blind to or held things against you that you have forgotten about completely. Thank them and proceed to ask their forgiveness in deep humility. Tell them that you will commit to the Lord to seek His help to become what He wants you to be. The damage we may have done to our children does not have to be permanent.
Isaiah 61:3-4, 6 “To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified. And they shall build the old wastes, they shall raise up the former desolations, and they shall repair the waste cities, the desolations of many generations.” But ye shall be named the Priests of the Lord: men shall call you the Ministers of our God.”
Dear one, He can and will give us beauty for our ashes, He will turn our mourning to joy, He will exchange our heaviness for the spirit of praise. We can, along with our children be called trees of righteousness!! We can be His ministers who bring His hope to waiting and needy people.
I love the book, Lord, Change Me, by Evelyn Christensen. The lesson in it is that we pray for and want so much for those around us to change. We do things and say things to try to change them. But the truth of the matter is that it is our hearts that need to change first and as a result, others will see His light and our “salt” will cause a thirst in their hearts. Let us be about the business of begging God to change us and leave the changing of others to Him.